People grow up learning

People grow up learning to be silent about their sexuality, so where are they going to learn to talk about it when they are in a relationship? Shame, guilt, ignorance, reservation, prudishness, all kinds of different cultural systems and social stereotypes shroud sexuality in secrecy and in silence. And there’s the romantic notion. If I say in the beginning, that I am missing something, you are instantly going to think that means you are not enough.
Esther Perel