If you lie down

If you lie down in a village square hoping to capture a sea gull, you could stay there your whole life without succeeding. But a hundred miles from shore it’s different. Sea gulls have a highly developed instinct for self-preservation on land but at sea they’re very cocky. Gabriel Garcia Marquez

Well-being is possible to

Well-being is possible to the degree to which one has overcome one’s narcissism; to the degree to which one is open, responsive, sensitive, awake, empty…. Well-being means, finally, to drop one’s Ego, to give up greed, to cease chasing after preservation and the aggrandizement of the Ego, to be and to experience one’s self in … Read more

This food-and-shelter theory concerning

This food-and-shelter theory concerning man’s efforts is without insight. Our most persistent and spectacular efforts are concerned not with the preservation of what we are but with the building up of an imaginary conception of ourselves in the opinion of others. The desire for praise is more imperative than the desire for food and shelter. … Read more

You have to realize

You have to realize there is nothing more you can do to convince someone you love to turn their life around. You simply have to say, \”Look. I love you, but I cannot stand by and watch you kill yourself slowly. When you want help I’m here. Until then, goodbye.\” That may sound cruel, but … Read more

When I read the

When I read the article [in The New Yorker] by David Grann, I was very struck by people responding to the article, of people thinking I was such a hero and what a wonderful person I was, and I didn’t feel that at all. I felt like I had very much, like Todd [Willingham], taken … Read more